Cosleeping and Biological Imperatives: Why Human Babies Do Not and Should Not Sleep Alone

Cosleeping and Biological Imperatives: Why Human Babies Do Not and Should Not Sleep Alone

Home

Home

The Unperfect Mummy: Guilt and other negative emotions...

The Unperfect Mummy: Guilt and other negative emotions...

You Cannot Not Communicate

Great Article on marriage and communication


http://www.simplemarriage.net/you-cannot-not-communicate.html#more-7027:

Tips for mummies with three kids under three

Wives who want everything “spotless” become the most irritable ones

http://marriage.ygoy.com/how-to-deal-with-a-lazy-husband/How To Deal With A Lazy Husband?: Do you like everything to be spick and span in your house, but your husband isn’thelping you? 

So cross at this article...SAHM do not work as hard as working mums Really!!!!

Why do stay at home mothers complain so much?

There are so many mothers that wish they can stay home but have to work, sometimes two jobs to take care of their kids.

• 2 years ago
• Report Abuse

Additional Details

Oh yeah and stay at home mothers don't work as hard as working mothers. Working mothers have to work 8 hours a day and then come home and do what stay-at-home mothers do.

2 years ago

I don't even have children. It just bothers me when I have seen my mother and many other women struggling to work and take of their kids and stay at home moms complain when they don't have it as nearly bad.

2 years ago

For those of you telling me to get a job, I do have a very good job and I am working on my master's degree. I am probably more educated than all of you.
I have worked since I was 16 years old and I am proud of it.

Once I do get married and have children, I am going to appreciate being able to be a stay at home mother because I will know what it is like to have a JOB, something many of you have never had.

2 years ago

To I heart avacados: I was also a caseworker for the Department of Children and Services and it was actually my first job out of college. What's your point?

You women on here are so mad about my comment and I am glad. Maybe you will stop complaining how bad your life is as a stay at home mother. Be grateful and show more appreciation to working mothers.

2 years ago

Moon

Best Answer - Chosen by Asker

I worked for the first year of my son's life and I was miserable!!! My son stayed at my mother-in-law's house while my husband and I worked full time jobs.

When my daughter was born, we found out that my mother-in-law was physically abusing my son. We fired her and my husband and I decided that it would be best if I stayed home with the kids.

I love being a stay at home mom! In my circumstance, I believe that working mothers have it harder than I do. I think I have it pretty easy with the kids and every day feels like a weekend. I would NEVER complain about being a SAHM. I love my "job"!

• 2 years ago

"Work-Life Balance: A Working Father's Perspective."

Introduction: 

The term “work life balance” has become synonymous with “mommy overload.” And why not?  Record numbers of women are in pursuit of full time careers and they are still carrying the bulk of the domestic load at home.[1]  Women have also been the great advocates for work-life balance.  Decades of lobbying from working mothers has resulted in parental leave, flex time options, working from home and other government and workplace policy change designed to alleviate the task of balancing work and family.

 Growing and emerging research, however, would tell a different story:  more men than women are saying that work life and family life are interfering with each other.[2]  Men on average still spend more time at work than women,[3]  but the workplace has done little to recognize the changing needs of men at home. In short, men are about 40 years behind women when it comes to work life balance and many are stuck between paradigms.

 This document is not designed to fuel a gender war. Work life balance is neither a working mothers’ nor a working fathers’ issue. It’s not even uniquely a nuclear family issue.  Single people with disabilities need better work life balance. Same sex couples with aging parents need better work life balance. Indeed, if the Millennial generation is to be listened to, they expect better work life balance. 

 Given the wide scope and potential ramifications of this problem, it is short sighted to continually view the challenges of work life balance through the narrow lens of working mothers.  To do so, in fact, might be detrimental to the cause. It is my own personal conviction that women will continue to come up against the glass ceiling until more men feel comfortable saying, “Sure, I’ll drastically cut back my hours so my wife can climb the corporate ladder.”   This is the oft overlooked part of the feminist movement which was so accurately foreseen by Gloria Steinem when she said, “Women will not be taken seriously outside the home until men are taken seriously in it.”

 The purpose of this project is simple: bring the voices and perspectives of working fathers to the table.  Some employers will resist the evidence that adopting work life balance friendly policies can save industry $15 billion annually[4].  Others will embrace the changes and surely come out ahead of the competition. The vast majority, at least in the short term, will inadvertently overlook or undervalue the changing needs of working fathers, to the detriment of their employees and their bottom line. As such, I applaud Vancity Credit Union and Clearly Contacts for having the foresight to recognize the importance of this issue in the workplace and our communities, and the business savvy to turn a potential HR issue into a competitive advantage.  Without their participation and leadership, this work would not have been possible.http://www.bettermensolutions.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=1217

Kids and Restless Leg Syndrome

Expert Pediatrics Q&A

By Vincent Iannelli, M.D., About.com Guide

Updated August 20, 2006

About.com Health's Disease and Condition content is reviewed by the Medical Review Board

See More About:

·         symptoms of restless leg syndrome

·         treatments for restless leg syndrome

·         rls

·         growing pains

·         iron deficiency anemia

Q. Can kids get restless leg syndrome?

A. Restless leg syndrome is usually thought of as an adult disorder, so it is likely that many Pediatricians are not familiar with it.

However, according to the Restless Leg Syndrome Foundation, 'an estimated 1.5 million children and adolescents' are thought to have RLS and it is thought that 'RLS symptoms often begin during childhood or adolescence.'

What is Restless Leg Syndrome?

The National Institutes of Health states that 'restless legs syndrome (RLS) is a sensory disorder causing an almost irresistible urge to move the legs. The urge to move is usually due to unpleasant feelings in the legs that occur when at rest. People with RLS use words such as creeping, crawling, tingling, or burning to describe these feelings. Moving the legs eases the feelings, but only for a while.'

And having Restless Leg Syndrome can make it hard to fall asleep or stay asleep.

Symptoms of Restless Leg Syndrome

The major symptoms for a child with restless legs syndrome include:

·         an almost irresistible urge to move their legs or arms when they are sitting or lying down, including pacing, walking, stretching, flexing, tossing, turning, jiggling their legs, or rubbing their legs

·         unpleasant feelings in their legs, which can lead to difficultly falling asleep or stay asleep, including creeping, crawling, itching, tingling, burning, aching, pain, etc.

·         daytime symptoms from a lack of sleep, including daytime sleepiness

Keep in mind that children may find the unpleasant feelings hard to describe or they may describe their symptoms differently than adults do, and some children who are diagnosed with growing pains may actually have restless leg syndrome, especially if there is a family history of RLS.

There may also be some association between restless leg syndrome and ADHD.

Diagnosis of Restless Leg Syndrome

Although there is no formal blood test that can help to diagnose restless leg syndrome, if your child can answer yes to the following four questions, then according to the NIH, he does have all of the conditions for a diagnosis of restless leg syndrome and he may to see a Pediatric Neurologist for further evaluation and treatment:

1.        Do you have an urge to move the legs due to an unpleasant feeling in your legs?

2.        Is the urge to move your legs, or the unpleasant feelings in your legs, begin or gets worse when you are at rest or not moving around frequently?

3.        Is the urge to move your legs, or the unpleasant feelings in your legs, partly or completely relieved by movement (such as walking or stretching) for as long as the movement continues?

4.        Is the urge to move your legs, or the unpleasant feelings in your legs, worse in the evening and at night, or does it only occur in the evening or at night?

What You Need To Know

·         Restless leg syndrome does tend to run in families. 

·         People with RLS often also have Periodic Limb Movement Disorder, in which their legs uncontrollably twitch or jerk every 10 to 60 seconds, usually during sleep. 

·         It is not known what causes RLS, but it can be secondary to iron deficiency anemia and some other medical conditions and as a side effect of taking antidepressants, antinausea medicines, antiseizure medicines, and some allergy and cold medicines. RLS can also sometimes be triggered by alcohol, caffeine, and tobacco.

·         RLS can be treated with lifestyle changes and medicines.